Love, is it worth fighting for?

Love is Not a Fight

By Warren Barfield

 

Love is not a place
To come and go as we please
It's a house we enter in
Then commit to never leave

So lock the door behind you
Throw away the key
We'll work it out together
Let it bring us to our knees

Love is a shelter in a raging storm
Love is peace in the middle of a war
And if we try to leave, may God send angels to guard the door
No, love is not a fight but it's something worth fighting for

To some, love is a word
That they can fall into
But when they're falling out
Keeping that word is hard to do

Love will come to save us
If we'll only call
He will ask nothing from us
But demand we give our all

I will fight for you
Would you fight for me?
It's worth fighting for

 

 

Every time I hear this song tears just flow from my eyes and my heart pierces me straight through my flesh.  I believe that this is what God called for marriage to be, worth fighting for. That when you go into a bond, you become one.

 

⁴ They said, “Moses permitted a man to write a certificate of divorce and send her away.”

 ⁵ “It was because your hearts were hard that Moses wrote you this law,” Jesus replied. ⁶ “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’^{[a] 7} ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife,^{[b] 8} and the two will become one flesh.’^[c] So they are no longer two, but one flesh. ⁹ Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

 ¹⁰ When they were in the house again, the disciples asked Jesus about this. ¹¹ He answered, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery against her. ¹² And if she divorces her husband and marries another man, she commits adultery.” Mark 10:4-12

 

Truth, that's pure scripture and I do not know how you could interpret it any other way. That is why it's SO important to teach your children this. Love is something that you should BE to others. But when it comes to choosing a partner, you must remember, that person is FOREVER tied to you in a bond created by God. Of course there are those times some marry and the other person or both become two completely different people, maybe violent, wicked. However, even with divorce, you are still bonded to that person for forever.  I've only been married for a little over 4 years and I am certainly not saying I know everything about love.

Those first 3 years aged me, not in a good way. If I could redo those first years I would. Living out love and forgiveness daily instead of holding onto anger and the "what if's" that slowly burdened my heart. I am still learning how to truly love my husband, even in the moments when I feel that he doesn't deserve it, but there are SO many times I don't but he still loves me. Love, what is it? What does scripture say about love?

 

³ If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast,^[b] but do not have love, I gain nothing.

⁴ Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. ⁵ It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. ⁶ Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. ⁷ It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

 ⁸ Love never fails.

1 Corth. 13:3-7

 

All this shows me that love is ACTION. There is nothing about your "emotions" in that moment. It is putting how you feel at that very moment behind you and putting that person first. It always hopes, that makes me smile. That in the dark times I will have HOPE in the love of my husband that things will get better. It's not that you would just stand back and watch the love you have for someone leave. To truly love you must be humble.

 

Humble:

1.modest: modest and unassuming in attitude and behavior

2.respectful: feeling or showing respect and deference toward other people

3.lowly: relatively low in rank and without pretensions

 

Number 3....that's my favorite. The world acts as though becoming humble, in which the humble #3 describes, is a bad thing. That you do not stand up for yourself, your not number one, you you you, all about you. How can you love others when its all about you?? It's NOT possible. Christ humbled himself so much that he bleed, was beaten, DIED for us. Pride and Fear hold me down at times. I am - easily angered, proud, envy, NOT kind at times, and I DO keep records of wrongs at times. I am sinful, broken. How do I become everything Christ has called me to be? By everyday walking with Christ and when I fall to my own sinful nature, I will collapse at the feet of Jesus and pour out my heart for forgiveness, which he gives freely to those with a true and right heart towards him. God is SO merciful. No matter what your past is, what you have done, he is waiting for you to come to him. For HE is true Love. The only one on this earth that will love you the way we desire to be loved.

How do you just ask for forgiveness when you feel that you don't derserve it, or maybe your heart is SO hardened that you just don't care that God forgives you?

God made YOU, he chose your features, your abilities, your heart, mind, and soul. When you make something and put everything you have in it, doesn't it mean everything to you? Why would it be any different with God, it would, because you mean MORE.  That he would continuesly forgive us time and time again, when our heart truly means it. For those that have a hardened heart. God heals, restores, and renews. You can be restored. It takes you coming to him and asking for that daily. It will come, trust me. God can do ANYTHING, its just us that stand in the way at times.

So don't stand in your own way to truly love the people that come in your life, to truly love your spouse, to truly love those that might not deserve it in your eyes.

Love is worth fighting for.